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Afraid of Son's Anger
Q.:You once advised me long ago and I was very pleased with what you had to say. My present concern is my son's direction and his dedication to his education.
He has dropped out of college now, to my dismay and expense. I put up a fight, but now I feel beaten. He lives at home with my mother and me. He isn't working right now. Sometimes he gets extremely violent when he's been drinking. He says he wants to go back to school, but I know that he's waiting for me to "take care of him" again. He says that he's sorry, and that he knows he's made mistakes -- but he doesn't do anything to help himself.
He only talks to me after he's been drinking, and even then, only to criticize me. Joan, you told me back then that he had a lot of anger, and you were right! Sometimes he really frightens me. I'm frightened, too, because I feel so weak, as though I've given up. I need your advice and insight!
A.: Thank you for your letter. I'm sorry to hear that your son hasn't improved his behavior after all these years. When I look at him psychically, I see that he still won't take responsibility for his actions or his life in general. He hasn't examined himself; he simply blames you. I see that you have the strength within to do what you need to do, but you don't really want to go ahead.
I sense that you feel some guilt regarding him, and that is why you allow his bad behavior. Your son won't change any time soon in this place. I see him becoming increasingly belligerent and angry. He does have a tendency to get physical with people, and you should be afraid. You aren't weak, but you do give him the benefit of the doubt and hope that he will act better.
I see that you'll have the strength to ask him to leave your home and start life on his own. This will occur in about three months, with the help of a counselor and police. You may not see yourself doing this now; however, your son's behavior is deteriorating. I see you taking this action not only for your safety, but for your mother's, as well. It also appears that when you act, you will enable your son to take stock of his life and begin his own road to healing.
